Why Appearances Shouldn’t Matter

I’m prepared to get a lot of hate for this post & I’m totally fine with that. I’m a woman, I love to get dressed up, do my hair & makeup, & make myself look good. I also love fashion blogs & beauty channels. Granted, I feel every woman likes to look good, some more than others & that’s totally fine. The thing I want to talk about is why I believe appearances shouldn’t matter. I’m pretty sure every person on this planet has spent some time judging another person & I’m also pretty sure a lot of the times it comes down to how the person looks. My looks/appearance are not who I am on the inside. It’s so easy for us to look at someone & make wrong assumptions I’m a firm believer in not judging a book by its cover. Here’s why, while I was growing up I was always taught that my character, or what my parents liked to call my insides were more important than what I looked like on the outside. We as human beings who have been very conditioned in this culture to judge need to stop & remember that a person’s worth, character, talent..etc is not directly linked to their appearance. Just because someone doesn’t look like you doesn’t mean that they’re any less than you, or that their differences are wrong. In 1 Samuel 16:7b it says, “The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” I love this verse & the reason why is because it points out what’s really important here, the heart. We should be spending more time on our character/heart(the insides) rather than our appearance(outsides). I want my heart for God & love for people to be the most attractive thing about me not my makeup, my hair, my looks, or even the clothes I’m wearing. I also want to mention I get that there are dress codes in our society & even in our churches at times. I understand why they’re there, but when it comes to the church I believe we need to be especially careful. People should be able to come as they are, they shouldn’t feel pressured to wear something specific in order to attend church. Nor do I believe someone’s appearance should qualify or disqualify them. A person’s outside ultimately doesn’t affect their heart or their character & those things are what’s most important. Just because someone is different from you doesn’t give you the opportunity or the right to judge them & their hearts. Jesus spent time with people who society deemed unworthy & sinful & Jesus had some pretty strong words for people who looked good on the outside. In Matthew 23:27 he says, “What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs—beautiful on the outside but filled on the inside with dead people’s bones and all sorts of impurity. The 2nd thing Jesus said I believe should be our heart for people & I’d like to mention he’s again speaking to the Pharisees who looked like they had everything together. In Mark 2: 16-17 He says,  But when the teachers of religious law who were Pharisees saw him eating with tax collectors and other sinners, they asked his disciples, “Why does he eat with such scum? When Jesus heard this, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.”

My point in this post is to challenge your thinking when it comes to the way people look. It’s so easy for us to even become jealous or feel bad about ourselves because someone has nicer things or looks better than us. My challenge to everyone who reads this is to pay attention to your thoughts when you see someone & really to remember a person’s worth should not be linked to their appearance. 

“Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” Galatians 1:10 

3 thoughts on “Why Appearances Shouldn’t Matter

  1. Great post Alisha! I love how you tie in Scripture with your thoughts really seamlessly.

    I have a question for you. If spending more time on the inside than the outside is what matters – because it’s the heart that is most important – does that mean that appearances shouldn’t matter at all? Should a business not have any care of what their employees look like? Should a scruffy, sloppy, unkempt looking person be afforded the same advancement opportunities as a person who represents the identity of the company and brand more accurately?

    I totally agree that the heart is the most important!

    A slightly different topic here, but when Jesus addressed the Pharisees about looking sombre when fasting, here’s what He said:

    16 “Whenever you fast, do not put on a gloomy face as the hypocrites do, for they neglect their appearance so that they will be noticed by men when they are fasting. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. 17 “But you, when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face 18 so that your fasting will not be noticed by men, but by your Father who is in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.

    The same point is being made, that God will see their secret act – you could even say their hearts – and yet he’s making a point of directing their outward appearance. I’m wondering if perhaps appearances should matter, but maybe not as much as what some have valued it at?

    I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    Marisa findhope.tv #iamloved



    1. Hi Marisa,

      Thanks for taking the time to read my blog, I also appreciate you dropping a comment. As I said in my blog “I get that there are dress codes in our society & even in our churches at times & I understand why they’re there.” I would hope people would use discretion when it comes to appearances for the sake of a job interview, a wedding, etc & I believe for the most part people do. The tenor of my blog leaned more on the issue of judging people simply based on their appearance. It would be wonderful to live in a world where people are valued for their character vs. the external. Just a thought…who would I rather represent the Kingdom? John the Baptist or a Pharisee? 😉

      Thanks for sharing your perspective.



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